Leave it to celebrities to provide insight concerning divorce. When asked about her ex-husband, actress Gwyneth Paltrow shared some valuable insight. She said, “I wanted to turn my divorce into a positive.” This meant recalling the good things that made her marriage. When it comes to your marital dissolution, you should know that you can make a good life after your divorce.
Very few exchange marital vows with the prospect of ending the union. That said, sometimes things don’t work out according to plan. Meanwhile, even if you don’t want to split up, you have the opportunity to start a new life.
Unfortunately, not every divorce represents an amicable break-up. Things leading to divorce can get very ugly.
At the risk of flooding you with celebrity quotes, best-selling author Jennifer Weiner provides a profound reminder. “Nobody ever died of divorce.”
Truth be told, many parents stay together for the sake of the children. What example does that set? For most, it’s one or the other of bad behavior. Or, even a combination of both. On the one hand, some couples expose their offspring to continual bickering.
On the other, it’s more about exhibiting proverbial cold shoulders. How can you teach your children to enjoy love without demonstrating what sharing means? Is it really worth in it the end?
Divorce attorneys aren’t necessarily experts when it comes to the dynamic between marital partners. However, recovery after a marital split often results in a chance for a new beginning.
Divorce Recovery: Life After Your Divorce
If you or your spouse has filed divorce papers, it may be your first move. After all, you’re accustomed to being part of a relationship. Why not find someone new?
Albeit anectodical, Women’s Health shares some stories about how long nine different divorcees waited to start dating. Some signed up for dating applications. They didn’t even wait for the formal papers ending their marriage. They found the whole process one of empowerment.
Meanwhile, others found it better to wait. One decided to bank on alone time for a year. Another delayed in involvement for almost a decade.
Quite frankly, the concept of dating sounds scary to both men and women whose relationships have come to an end. Some focus on their children, while others are far too busy attempting to make money to support the household.
In the meantime, there’s something for consideration. Parents deserve happiness. That said, children ultimately leave the home. As a result, mom or dad often wind up very alone.
Life after your divorce isn’t just about finding a new partner. Truth be told, it may be about finding yourself.
Moving Forward
No doubt that divorce has its share of negative connotations. However, many adapt another attitude. In fact, here are some suggestions if you’re not sure how to move forward after your divorce:
- Divorce ranks up there with death of a loved one. – Take time to grieve.
- Develop friendships. Join groups that focus on things that interest you.
- Search out professional counseling or become part of a support group.
- Go on the diet. Join the gym. Go to the library. Do things for you.
- Wake up every morning with new goals and a fresh approach to life.
- Make a list of what matters to you. Try to follow it.
- Embrace the fact that you only report to you.
- Reinvent yourself and further your self-esteem.
There’s no magic to moving forward after a divorce. After it’s all done, you may find what you missed during a bad marriage. No one suggests that you’ll be free of struggles. However, freedom can be exhilarating experience.
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At the Law Offices of Sam Stoia, we recognize that life after divorce can be challenging. The process itself is emotional. We help our clients with compassion and experienced legal advice.Contact us to schedule an appointment.